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What' interesting about is tha many of the points you made are rather obvious in a more "casual" or "friend"-like host-guest relationship. (e.g. Like the guest helping out the host, hodge-podge lunches, etc.) It sounds more or less like how I'd treat a close if he were staying with me for a long time. (If he was only staying for a day, I'd do more or less what your mom would have done.)

In U.A.E., my family's rarely had (or even never) had visitors staying for more than one day. The reason I guess is that all of the work would have had to be done by my mom. Also, I've often notices volutnteer overzelously to help their host (e.g. wash dishes, etc.) This is perhaps an Indian thing and again this is in the UAE.

In India, generally everyone has servants; often multiple servants -- one to cook and one to clean at the very minimum. As such, guest dynamic is totaly different.

As a guest, in India we make a judgement as to how much of a burden we'd be on our hosts and accordingly limit our stay. For hsts with only one or two servants a week at most. For a host with no servants, a day at most (just like in the UAE.) You get the idea.

Right now I'm staying with my aunt, and there are servants here for everything -- from carrying your laundry to the washing machine, then ironing your clothes and folding them neatly -- to packing the kids' school lunchboxes.

Servants in India make from US$0.35/hour to $0.50/hour or more in cities. In rural areas, they may be a lot cheaper. At my aunt's there's a servant whose job is to cook, and everyone (incl. myself) admits her cooking is par excellence -- most restaurants don't even compare. She comes in at 6:30am and leaves at 2:30am (after 8 hours), probably for another job. And I believe she works all 7 days a week. For the superb cooking and 8x30 = 240 hours, she gets paid a royal sum of Rs. 6000/month ($120/month).

Incidentally I will be staying at my aunt's for nearly a month.


Have you heard if a phenomenon called couch surfing? It's when people need a pace just to sleep for the night. -- the host offers his couch - minimum hospitality, but hey it's something.

And according to my super-social fried Ehtesh (through whom I met Ozan; there's a practise atleast in the U.S., where if you wnt to explore a new city -- you sleep over at various strangers' couches. In exchange for.their services, you're supposed osupply them with cool stories of what you've done what not -- and in general be a amd & a fun person to talk to.

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